Are you living with passion?
Are you living your life in a way that makes you get up every day excited to get moving, to get back into the mix, busy creating the life that makes your heart soar? Or are you living your life according to the expectations of others, going through the motions, looking forward to the day’s end so that you can numb out in front of a computer or TV screen? It’s an important question and one that we don’t often get asked, much less give any thought to.
Are you trying to “fit in”? Going along to get along?
Like most of us, I grew up with a combination of my own dreams and the expectations of who other people thought I should be. At home I should be a dutiful daughter: don’t make trouble, be helpful, be quiet, acquiesce to the directives of my elders. At school I should be a model student: study hard, make good grades, be a “team player” with my peers, be polite to my teachers. At church I should be a “good girl”: sit still, be quiet and pay attention to the preacher, learn the catechism, memorize bible verses.
As I got older the expectations of my peers added to the mix above: be cool, don’t be too smart, don’t be a nerd. There were cultural expectations of success and happiness: go to college, get married, have a family, get a house in a nice suburb, have two cars and take a two week vacation at the beach every year.
Along with marriages come husbands with their own expectations and agendas for what one should do with her life.
You are responsible for choosing – or not choosing – your dreams over the expectations of others
Most of the time, I allowed myself to be influenced or sidetracked by these agendas and expectations of others. Note that I said I allowed myself to be sidetracked. That’s the bottom line. I was caught up in pleasing other people, in making them happy, in trying to live somebody else’s vision of a “dutiful” daughter, “successful” woman, or a “good” wife.
Can you relate? Does this sound even a tiny bit like you? Are you waiting until you satisfy everyone else’s agenda before you start living the life you believe in your heart you are meant to live? Guess what? It will never happen. You won’t die with your inbox empty and you won’t die having met everyone’s needs or having pleased everyone. Don’t wait another day to start taking steps to create the life your heart is calling you to live.
There will never be a “better” time . . . now is the time!
It’s challenging to change the deeply ingrained habits of mind, but it can be done. Over time with practice, it gets easier to have confidence in yourself, easier to believe that you are the best person to decide how to live your “one wild and precious life” in the words of the poet Mary Oliver. Working with a life coach can help you get back on track with your dreams and stay there!
Will you cross the final threshold feeling that your life mattered? That you lived as fully as you could? That you gave the very best of yourself to the world? If you aren’t sure, as a life coach I can help you get started finding the answers to those questions.
You can start here . . .
. . . by emailing firstname.lastname@example.org for a free mini-course.